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A Future Sex Addict [Feb. 11th, 2008|12:46 pm]
How does one get out of being attention starved? At what point does it become possible to get some of this intimacy I'm craving? Being a sex addict may sound silly right now, because by most definitions I have never had sex, but I can see the paths that could lead me there.

Is my present lack of sex with others evidence to the contrary? Well, first you have to ask yourself whether it involves a choice on my part. I certainly have the money to go after prosititutes if that was what I wanted. I don't know where any are, but that is hardly a hurdle for an addict. I live next to, nearly on a college campus. I am reasonable attractive and reasonably close to the age of students there. Both of these seem to suggest that I am not going after one night stands and available promiscuous sex.

The pessimistic part of me tells me that I am too ugly or I just haven't had the right opportunities. I hope those aren't the reasons that I do not have sex with people constantly. I would like to think that I have principled reasons. My last girlfriend told me that my status as a virgin scared her. She said it would be too much pressure to be my first time. This leaves me in the position of not really having a choice when it came to that relationship.

Perhaps it is not so much that I am ugly, but that I put off all of the wrong social signals. Would I want to be the kind of person described by the news as "local lothario"? I know that I have emotional needs that I am not satisfying. Awareness is a first step, but I what I need are healthy solutions.

[User Picture]From: pinkjasminelady
2008-02-27 08:54 pm (UTC)
I imagine you hit the nail on the head in the last paragraph: "I know that I have emotional needs that I am not satisfying." Most emotional needs turn out not to have much to do with sex at all, in my not-particularly-vast experience.
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